In the West, so many of us are desperate to find someone to show us the way.  Maybe you copy the diets of people whose body type you admire, or follow the career path of someone who has achieved their idea of success.  In doing so, you lose our own agency – your ability to act in the way that is best for you.  You forget about bioindividuality – that we are all unique individuals on our own journeys, with our own past experiences.  You no longer listen inwards to your own inner wisdom.  Instead, you live your life trying to imitate somebody else.

The sign of a good teacher and coach is one who is able to help you shift past your self-imposed limitations.  A good teacher or coach will help you see your true self-worth, and will empower you to make your own decisions.

In a society where we normally look outwards to find the answers, we often end up wanting someone to tell us what to do.  Eat this, think that, act like this.  What we really need is someone who is a few steps ahead of us on the path, who can help – and sometimes advise – us while reminding us that we already know what we need to do.  It’s the doing it that’s the hard part!

To move in the direction we want, help is required through creating a step-by-step actionable process.  We all benefit from support, challenge, accountability and understanding to keep progressing.  Someone who is walking the path a few steps ahead of us can also help us navigate the obstacles that would otherwise stall us.

I recently wrote about how our thoughts can obscure our reality.   At some point in our lives, we all need guidance to uncloud our perception to see clearly.  Again, at some point we will really lean on external support to teach us the way.  Not some Guru’s way – your way.